Linked In Connecting
[This was comment I added to a discussion on Linked In regarding connecting etiquette]
I always suggest people get one like one follow and one connect at a time, that way rather than shoehorning your email list into that little box you will manually and personally invite people to be connected to you. Also the number of people I meet who are here but don’t know how or why, are those just accepting the mailing list invite from a contact.
I built a MySpace profile to 18,000 friends and all invited manually, it’s the only human. Similarly as suggested Facebook is on the up for business whether they like it or not and the best fun you can have is to watch social media and marketing businesses try to get that into their package of training. Sorry but it does make me laugh people with RSS feeds of Mashable for a FB page suggesting they train you, as well as trainers who are not active on FB telling you how to be active.
Personally I only connect with people I have physically met and so have their business card, those who I find insightful and interesting through discussions and groups I am a member of, those who find me insightful and interesting from discussions and groups I am in and so on. It goes without saying being active on linked In will get these invites rather.
Yes there are people I don’t know and will never meet and that’s good, I am not necessarily getting their business, but getting involved in an engaging relationship where both parties can share and learn from each other. Like any networking, if you’re looking to constantly add your sales pitch you aren’t engaging but come across as disengaged.
I have been doing this for 28 years now [social networking] all the internet has changed is quicker response, through the 80′s I had a postal mailing list of over 2000 artists that I wrote to regularly. Most I never met some I did meet many I shared and learned from. Those not being engaging always disappeared, like the person in Yorkshire I met who couldn’t understand my interest in talking to someone on Linked In who lives in New York.
We’ve all more or less worked out physical networking and the fact you never know who knows who and how simply engaging and starting a conversation can lead anywhere. It’s just the same here.
I am wary of people who connect with me who say they are my friend and aren’t, my etiquette to accept them after a simple check on who they are. Then to message them and suggest they may like to approach the next person with a more personal and engaging message.
My final point, discussions like this [on Linked In] are invaluable for everyone looking for help and advice and a little guidance. It’s always good to ask questions, some people may not want you to know the answers but those engaging in the discussion will broaden the perspective from the initial view point and add value.
We wouldn’t get those answers by just sticking our head in the sand. So who is out there? We don’t know and that’s the exciting bit not thinking what financial gain could be made from them.


